Carolyn and I have recently returned from a cruise vacation where the ship staff were wonderful at making you feel welcomed and even “important.”
Many worked hard to remember our names. Without fail, every time we encountered a staff member in the hall, when we walked by, they would greet us kindly with a “Good Morning” or “Hello sir.”
Royal Caribbean cruise line has learned well the truth of this quote, “How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about you.”
In How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie wisely pointed out that the sweetest word to any person is their name.
Make people feel good about themselves, and they will be attracted to you.
But how does this relate to confronting people and telling the truth about unacceptable behaviors and sins? Can we just help people feel good about what they are doing, no matter how wrong it is?
No! We must “speak the truth in love.” (Ephesians 4:15)
A parent who just tries to make their child feel good without giving any discipline, is not a good parent.
So what do we do? We discipline our children lovingly. We show as much tact and kindness as we can while telling people the truth about sinful behavior.
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” (Colossians 4:15 ESV)